Month: November 2018

We are very different when it comes to sex. While some couples stick to the basic, vanilla sex, others opt to venture into more dangerous territory, hence rough sex.

Rough sex it’s a sexual release where you can show your brute strength and your lust at the same time. This kind of sex is not something most people talk about easily, but yet, it’s something all of us could enjoy if done the right way.

Pain and pleasure are not so different, in that they both release endorphins. Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins in the same way that a spanking does. Endorphins are likely to be released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. When I say “pain”, I don’t mean necessarily something intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for. You can be tame, or you can get wild!

People who love rough sex get the sexual high more from the pain they experience than the sexual pleasure they feel. It hurts but you like it, and that’s what makes the whole thing so passionate. For those who enjoy it though, an occasional round of rough sex can increase the passion in a long term relationship.

Some women, however, may be unsure how to approach the subject simply because “nice” girls aren’t supposed to like dirty sex.

If you’re not someone who’s into rough sex, bringing all that aggression into something as romantic as vanilla sex could sound alarming, but don’t worry. This will change once you learn the little nuances of passionate rough sex. You’d never know how powerful you feel or how sexually arousing the act can be until you try it.

Most women need more than vanilla sex. They need excitement, passion, heat, kink, and… rough? Yes, girls like rough sex. But…take care guys, we don’t want this all the time. Every now and then, a good round of rough sex can make us feel alive. Somehow, being dominated once in a while with aggression turns a girl on.

First of all, rough sex is best enjoyed by women with a partener they trust. Both of you know each other’s limitations and capabilities, and it’s easy to know where to draw the line.

Exploring some out-of-the-box ways to have sex is a great way to keep things new and fresh. If you and your partner are going the way of BDSM, it’s important to come up with a safeword that either of you can use if you feel that things are going too far.  The safeword must be a word that you would never use during lovemaking, something like “lollipop” or “pineapple”. By saying this safe word, your partner understands that you’ve reached your limit and that you’d like the activity — and the role playing — to stop.

 So, gentleman’s, let’s start the “how-to” guide on how to dominate your woman. This is The Art Of Rough Sex.

I know that you like to be an alpha man, but let’s start easily, with some gentle domination. Push her against the wall and hold down her wrists. Let your weight against her to create the feeling like you are dominating her body. Grab her breasts and squeeze her ass – “This hot ass oy yours is all mine tonight”. After that, run your fingers through her hair and pull gently. Grab her hair so that it forces her to look up at you – “God, I need to be inside of you”

Now, it’s time to be more aggressive. Slap her ass mixing it up – slap, rub it with the palm of your hand, grip it with your hand and then slap it again. Repeat it.”I fucking love your ass”. Then bite her nipples and swirl your tongue around them.

Next step is to go down with your hand and touch her pussy. Play with her clit, while a hand is in her hair, and made her cum. While she is in ecstasy, start to aggressive lick her pussy and insert two fingers into her hot and wet pussy. “Oh, your pussy is so wet! Tastes good.”

Make her taste herself. After you finger her put your finger in her mouth, more fingers to add a bit of choking effect.

That’s the moment that you are waiting for – the BDSM can start! 

It’s time to make her pleasure you. Force her on her knees and put her suck you off. “Get on your knees and suck me”. Right away you are telling her what to do, ordering her around, tell her – “You are a good girl”. She exists for your sexual pleasure. She exists to please you.

Degrade her.

Call her “a dirty little whore”, but always use pronouns in your ownership language. Say – “You’re my whore.” Always use my and never a. When you call a girl my whore, she feels good about herself. She feels, as all women desire to feel, wanted and desired and owned by a man. When you call her a whore, she feels fungible and lacks a sense of belonging. Instead of saying – “You enjoy fucking, don’t you, you little slut?”, you should say – “You enjoy fucking me, don’t you?”.

Have sex with clothes on. If she’s wearing a dress (ideal), hike up her dress and fuck her like that. If she has pants, get rid of them. Move her panties aside (but don’t take them off!) and screw her like that.

Tie your lover’s hands and legs.

Tie her to the bedpost or hold her hands firmly with your own hands. The helplessness of the situation could turn both of you on, because one of you will be in complete control of the other person.

For many kinky lovers, cutting off the oxygen supply to the brain arouses them to an all time high. But be very careful here, as you could end up hurting your lover while choking or throttling them. Instead of trying to choke your lover, just place your hands gently on your lover’s neck and massage it just until she feels your pressure.

Tread carefully with this section! At any time she says the safe word, stop immediately. Pay attention to her body language and if it appears like she is not enjoying something or starting to hesitate, stop immediately! Do not continue if you have any doubts whatsoever!

Many of these sessions can be physically, but specialy mentally exhausting. So please take care of your partner after the rough sex. Make sure she is okay, make sure you did not overstep your boundaries.

Hug, kiss, hold, cuddle her and tell her that you love her!

Guest author, Osho Shivo, will be providing us with a more in-depth guide on how you too can experience the joys of tantra!

1) Free Yourself From Negativity

To begin with, you need to clean yourself up to become free from stress, anger, fear, jealousy, anxiety or any other negative emotions. You can’t carry the dirt if you are entering the worship.

This stage should be performed individually. Here’s a few techniques for doing this, you can pick which one you feel most comfortable doing.

Firstly, try forceful exhalations, focusing on forcing the breath out, and not worrying about inhaling. Another way to let out all the negative emotions out is by shouting, screaming, punching in the air, talking gibberish or whatever else works for you. You may even find putting on music really loud and dancing in a chaotic manner helps you release the negative energy. The aim is to do what works best for you until you feel free from negativity.

After all this energetic action, sit quietly or lie down for few minutes. At the end of this stage, you’ll feel deep relaxation from within.

2) Observe Desires And Go Beyond

It’s important to remember that tantra sex is propelled by masculine and feminine energy dynamics, and not by desires. One can let go of desires, just by observing and being with them rather than resisting desires or flowing with them.

Here are some popular techniques to help you let go of your desires:

• Prepare a sacred love temple, using sacred objects like flowers, plants, crystals, bells, stones, beautiful pictures, or anything else that reminds you of the peace.
• Invoke your spiritual guides, offer prayer to anyone you deeply trust, for example, Shiva, Krishna or whoever you worship.
• Put on some music that creates a romantic or sexual vibe, dance together, let one of the partners say stop at any point, and both of you freeze, enjoy the energy moving up the spine, start to dance again after some time, both of you can take turns in calling stop. Such a simple technique can be miraculous in taking you beyond desires.
• Harmonize your breath by one of you sitting on the lap of other, either inhale and exhale together, or one should inhales as the other exhales, taking this in turns.
• Gaze into each others eyes, don’t blink as far as possible, gyrate slowly when you feel like it.
• One of my most favorite techniques is to hum. Sit facing each other, holding hands in cross, inhale deep together and exhale from mouth while keeping it close in the form of humming sound. Feel the vibrations within your body and well as in your lovers body.

At the end of this stage, lovers will feel the energy flowing through their palms and fingers.

3) Tantric Touch And Foreplay

As the energy begins to flow through your fingers, you can now play with each other and listen to your bodies. While touching each other intimately, you’ll notice that certain body parts are pulsating with energy, while others carry energy blocks and hence feel dull or even painful.

Let me briefly explain the process to remove such energy blocks. Keep your eyes closed and feel the block and be with it even if it feels irritating, suffocating or painful. Now, the one who is feeling the block should visualize, as if this block itself is breathing in and out.

The other should give a gentle massage in clockwise and anticlockwise direction. Slowly, the block will begin to melt away. Now visualize the white light entering this space and spreading throughout the body. Very soon you will feel the soothing energy pulsations

At the end of this stage, the female’s breasts will feel the ecstatic pulsations with energy flowing through her nipples. Similar pulsation will be felt at the bottom of the male’s lingam (genitals). This is an utterly ecstatic state, where you become throbbing, pulsating energies.

4) Tantric Intercourse

Now the stage is set for unification of masculine and feminine energies. As you enter intercourse, feel the rising kundalini energy in the form of throb moving up the spine. Similarly, the penetration of feminine energy is felt through the connection of females breast at the male chest and it awakens the heart chakra.

Resist the temptation to move much, thrust only slightly. Remember that tantra is not the hot passionate bed breaking sex. Enjoy the bliss of energy rotating in loops, throughout the body. Lovers can experiences long full-body oragsms during this state.

5) Tantra Samadhi

Once you have merged in orgasm and you’re enjoying the ecstasy, it’s time to let go even further. Lie down along with each other, holding one hand and go in deep relaxation. Enjoy these timeless moments. Orgasm will now expand beyond bodies and the ecstatic experiences of cosmic consciousness will dawn over you. Remember, the stage of relaxation is absolutely necessary, for you to access cosmic intelligence.

The Tantra Transformation

As you come out of tantra samadhi, its bliss will pervade all over you for long hours or even for days. Don’t be shocked, if you observe that you are responding to routine situations with much awareness and the frustrations of life have given the way to love and compassion.

I have also observed that just one deep tantra experience is enough for harmonizing your life with divine purpose. Hence don’t be surprised with the occurrence of miraculous events, which may become the turning points of your life. The deep tantra experience also causes the transformation in your being and hence may lead to attaining of a divine personality.